I can forsee everyone carrying a 6ft pole.
Definitely don't doubt Dawn - not if you value your life
I shall endeavour, in future, to think of everybody (potential hugees) as moist Huggies and it shall be easy to hug no more.
Say, isn't that the title of a song?
In later years my remaining parent became very demanding expecting me to do shopping, cleaning, gardening etc; times I was told to ask work to be moved closer as 'you will be useful to me' - never understood that 'driving' a computer was now my job as an engineer and I just couldn't leave work tasks at a moments notice.
I well understand the 'phone call problem - the times I'd be in meetings to be rang at 5 minute intervals 'cause I wasn't where parent expected me to be - with them! One day I had 24 calls in a period of 20 minutes when I was in a meeting following which I was taking parent out for the rest of the day on a site visit.
You need to get OH + SiL to put their heads together with their Doctor and Social Services to sort the issue - yes it will be difficult and probably expensive (to them) but otherwise you will end up being slaves to them and never have a moments peace. Unfortunately some elders see it as their 'right' for the offspring to be at their bec and call.
Eventually the decision for me was taken out of my hands by a hospital talking to Social Services.
The happiest least stressful times of our lives where when we were living abroad. When we go on holiday abroad our mobile phones "cannot get a signal" It will not be until she dies that we will get any peace, he is incapable of making a phone call even if he could get at a phone it is M in L who is the right royal pain in the arse.
Well there was an about turn at 6AM this morning after F in L was faecally incontinent in their bed. It was at that moment she realised they need a live in carer as it took two people to deal with him and the bed. If she had been alone with him she would have had to wait until the morning carer arrived at about 8.30 to help the clean up.
To make things even better a retired GP rocked up and gave him his Covid jab as well. Things are all calm until the next crisis which will be when the care company says he needs nursing care at which point she will melt down again. It has been suggested she starts looking at nursing homes sooner rather than in panic mode when the crunch comes. It will do we just do not know when.
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